I’ve been reading – and writing – a lot of articles lately about how to build your self-confidence and self-esteem. With every part of my being I know that lasting eating disorder recovery comes when we learn to love and approve of ourselves.
I was out on a hike yesterday and listening to empowering self-affirmations from Louise Hay. Funny thing is I’m starting to re-word her affirmations and create ones that are better suited to my bulimia recovery road.
I thought I’d share a few of them with you. The key to building strong self-esteem (like strong muscles) is repetition. There’s more to it than that, but that’s one part any way.
Here are my slightly reworded affirmations for overcoming bulimia by building your self-esteem:
|Louise Hay’s Affirmation||My Affirmation|
|I am safe just being me.||I am great just being me.|
|I feel good about my life.||I love my life.|
|I work at a job that gives me pleasure.||I enjoy my work.|
A few of my favorite bulimia recovery affirmations these days are:
I love and approve of myself
I love myself more every day
I share my joy with everyone
All is well in my world
The best part of all of the eating disorder recovery work I’ve been doing lately to build my inner confidence and self-esteem is starting to show up in my outer (physical) world. No kidding! I had one of the most amazing visits with my Mom than I’ve had in years. My friends at work are smiling more, are complimenting me more and I just feel happier being at work.
I believe that as humans we’re each working in one of three general categories of issues during our lifetimes: relationships, health or wealth. There are times in our life when we’re working on all three, but I find that there’s usually one that rises to the top that we work on more than the other two.
The thing that has eluded me the most in my life is wealth (like as in BIG MONEY). As hard as I seem to pursue it I don’t presently have the amount of financial wealth, as I’d like. I have a great job and make good money, so I’m not crying in my soup. But I do have a vision for my life and it includes me being a rock star multimillionaire. Yes, I’m not ashamed to admit it. I expect to live a life of financial abundance.
Well, I want to share that the climax of all of the self-confidence (inner) work I’ve been doing was a really powerful moment I experienced while out on an early morning hike. While I was walking I was affirming out loud things like “I love and approve myself. I have a great life. I am great just being me.” Well, it really worked!
All of a sudden I came around the bend on the side of the mountain and I was presented with a beautiful view of my home town of San Luis Obispo. It’s a beautiful place and I’m truly blessed to live here. The moment was really inspiring to me because what I got when I looked out at the view was this incredible sense of full-ness. I felt full from within.
I felt abundant! I felt complete!
I know that loving one’s self comes from appreciating and respecting who I am as a person. In that moment I did. I felt my worth – my self-wealth I like to call it. I felt that I had been looking for many, many years for my wealth to come from outside of me – in the form of millions of dollars. Well, in that moment I got that my wealth was something much bigger and deeper – it was the esteem and love I have for who I am.
I am a good person. I can recognize and accept that.
What I’m getting from all of this is that millions of dollars aren’t going to make me feel wealthy because abundance comes from within. I like the phrase
You’ll SEE it when you BELIEVE it.
(Rather than you’ll believe it when you see it)
That’s how law of attraction works and in that moment I was completely being wealth. From head to toe I was abundance.
It’s a little hard to share in writing the experience – makes me wish I had a video at the time I could record my thoughts for you in that moment. It was awesome! As I write about it now I’m taken back to that feeling of abundance inside and feel totally content that all is well.
I’m writing all this on my recovery bulimia blog because I want you to see that self-confidence can be built up and feelings of self-love are yours to have if you choose it and work at it. It’s like how I talk about creating new habits takes 30 days to implant in our subconscious. I’m creating the new habit of feeling self-love and it’s creating the wealth and abundance that’s since been absent from my awareness. I hope you’re playing along and are doing your inner work, too.
Wishing you success in your recovery!