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See the Change You Want to BE the Change You Want to See

Just a quickie post for today. (or so I thought…)

I posted on my Facebook page today …

Notice the response from people coming into your life today. They are a reflection of your inner attitude. What would you like to see come back to you? Happiness? Love? Inspiration? Ok, then be those things first.

I was coaching a few clients and a friend the other day about recognizing what they were getting in the world was a reflection of what they had going on in their vibration.

I have a funny story to share about how this manifested for me.  So, I had an interaction with a colleague yesterday where I did something that overstepped my boundaries and was sort of against company policy.  I didn’t feel great about doing it, but it’s a bit of a story why I did what I did and won’t fully go into that here.

In any case, the manager it impacted called me to the mat in front of several senior level people.  I got the message. I did wrong. I knew when I was taking the action that it wasn’t appropriate, but the pain of going through the appropriate channels to correct an error I saw (i.e. getting her to redo some work) felt so painful at the time I just fixed a few things before sending the product to the client.  Client approved the work, but the manager realized I had overstepped by bounds by alerting something from her department.  Yada Yada Yada.

Let me get to the goods.

So, after I received this bitch slap email in front of the senior people I started trying to formulate an appropriate response.  I am all about getting along with people you work and interact with.  Believe me.  I love peace and harmony in my communications and work life.  I spent a little time yesterday and then again when I was getting ready this morning thinking about my response.

As you know, I practiced my morning process (every day!) so I was in a really high flying place when I got out of bed.  Then, as I showered I was thinking about her and my response.  I went through a range of emotions. Up and down.  Down and up.  Screw this, to hell with that, give in, give up.  You name it the yo-yo was certainly making the loopty-loop in my emotional scale.

I got in my car to head to the office in a high flying place.  Got about half way to work and this big truck comes up behind me.  I’m doing like 75 in fast lane, one other lane and people coming on to the freeway.  The truck flips his lights at me to get over.  I did when it was safe, but could tell this guy was pretty hot under the collar.

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As he passed me he honked his horn at me.  I could feel the negative energy flowing all over his truck.

“Wow!” I thought.

What is going on in me that I manifested a guy in a truck pissed off like that?

About two minutes later I found myself behind him at the light at the off ramp.  We turned left and another red light.  He proceeds to give me the middle finger with some enthusiasm in his rear view mirror.  I was like, “Gosh, I must really be worked up about this situation at work more than I thought.”

We went about a quarter of a mile, next red stop light.  He does it again.

I couldn’t recall what I was thinking about in that moment, but the whole interaction just left me asking myself…”what am I focusing on?  what am I vibrating to attract this into my life?”

As I thought deeper, I realized before I left the last place I had left my attitude/vibration about the work situation was a little bit between judgment, anger and resentment.  Not a pretty place.

Needless to say, I took this physical manifestation as a wake up call that I had some inner work to do.  And I did it.  I focused again on what I wanted (harmony/good communications at work) and really appreciated what I could in my life.  I worked on my grid, per Abraham Hicks.  I knew that in order to have a different outcome in my outer world I needed to shift.

When I got to work I had a conversation with a colleague who coached me about how I could respond and that helped a lot.

[Gosh, I really thought this was going to be a quickie post, but here I am blabbering on…ha ha!]

As I noticed what had taken place over the course of the past 24 hours I was inspired by the thought…

See the change you wish to be the change you wish to see.

It reminded me that we first must be aware – see the change.  This is the first step to changing anything in our lives.  We must realize we want something different for ourselves.  We must recognize the contrast of what we don’t want and focus on our vision for what we do want.

Then, we must shift who we are BE-ing in order to shift the outer world.  Changing your internal conversation, the meaning you give to a situation, the thoughts you’re thinking the way you choose to be with the people in your life.  That is all 100% up to you.  Sometimes, if we let our power go, we feel like we’re at effect of the situation. I could have gone all rogue with that guy this morning on the freeway and really incited him to even more anger and found myself at the end of it on his vibration…not holding on to what I wanted which felt like love and happiness.  I held my power and chose how to respond.  I just allowed his anger to wash over my car like water on an oily surface.  His energy did not penetrate my vibration.  I was in my power.

From there I made decisions in how I would be in the world, in the communications I would have with people around me that came from a place of love and light.  I intentionally tried sending good thoughts towards this person so I could feel the relief of how good it felt to share/spread love instead of resentment and anger.  Know that old saying…”holding a grudge against someone is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.”

We know better.  I know better.  I chose differently.

Thus, things at the office are beginning to unfold with ease and grace.  We will have a collaborative conversation this week to help build bridges and I appreciate that this whole situation came to bear.  It taught me a lot…and allowed me to share this story with you.

If you got something out of this, I hope you’ll leave a comment below.  Have you had a similar situation happen and maybe didn’t respond from a high place, but fell prey to the negative energy of another person? Please share your experiences below in the comments.

With love and light,

Polly

This Post Has 2 Comments
  1. This post made me think about responding vs. reacting to situations. It seems like you responded to the situation, you slept on it, mulled it over and, ultimately, responded in a collaborative way that was true to your Essence and who you are. Reacting would have been feeding into the emotional loopty-loop and emailing something totally juvenile and out of sync with your Essence and what you believe. I’m not sure people realize this distinction and how hard it really is to respond and not react. Thanks for your insight!

    1. Hi Michelle,

      Thank you for that kind feedback. I agree, responding to life and situations that come up from a healthy, empowered place is so much more pleasant than reacting. Mind you, I am human and find myself still reacting when triggered, but this was something that I wanted to share that showed how being mindful and conscious could help us choose the path that felt good.

      Hope you’re well,

      Polly

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