Bulimia Self Help Strategies to Get Started
Learning to love From Within Gets You Started
I know how hard it is to live with bulimia…especially if you’ve lived with it for 5, 10, 15 or more years. After that long you may feel helpless and life may seem hopeless. I am a living testament here to shine a light on what’s possible and tell you it can be different.
If I had given up at year 20 with bulimia I would not be living the rest of my life bulimia free. I didn’t give up. Don’t you give up either.
Let’s instead focus on a few strategies you can take away and implement TODAY.
As Martin Luther King Jr. said,
You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.
Here are 4 steps you can start with and one day at a time, one step at a time, one moment of binge/purge decision at a time you can change the direction of the next 20 years or more of your life.
- Be your best friend – bulimia is a nasty way of being. You’re treating yourself like you wouldn’t treat your worst enemy. If you treat yourself like you’re not worthy, life will treat you that way, too. Start today by being your best friend. Sit down right now and write down what it looks like to be your best friend. What would you start saying to yourself if you were to talk to your best friend who has an eating disorder? What would you start doing for yourself if you were being kind to yourself? If you have friends in your life that you don’t like – stop hanging out/talking to them. You need to be as kind as you can to yourself, and if there are people who make you feel badly, don’t see them or have communications with them (at least for awhile).
- Be easy about it – one of the pieces of coaching advice I give to my clients is STOP the hard work. You’re hard on yourself when you screw up and that is not the way to be loving and supportive towards yourself. If you have a hard day, take 10 deep breaths and remember to be easy on yourself. Be easy about everything in your life and that will help you find your natural flow.
- Be connected every day – it’s not enough to go to church or meditate once a month. Whatever you do to connect with your spiritual center and feel the love of your Higher Self (God), do it every day. I recommend at least 15-30 minutes each and every day. If feeling connected to God means you go hike or walk for 20 minutes a day damn it go do it! This is non-negotiable. If you don’t know what fills your love well inside, start looking for it. Your job each day is to try every practice, potion or prescription (not drugs!) you can find to feel loved by something bigger than you again. Try petting your cat for 15 minutes straight if that allows you to relax, feel like you’re loved by God and reminds you you are a worthy being. If you need ideas, email me. I’ve tried a lot so I’m sure we can come up with some for you to try. Here’s my favorite free meditation video from Abraham Hicks I listen to every morning before I start my day. Maybe try a bulimia hypnosis CD.
- Tell a new story – if you’re like me, going it alone is your old story. The story of your life to this point. In order to live into a new life, tell a new story, start telling your story as you want it to be. You can release your old story by sharing it on my website. The relief I felt when I shared my story with another person was a huge(!) weight lifted off my shoulders. It was scary as all hell, but I felt better through the telling of it. The built up shame and guilt were distinguished because I shared myself. I encourage you to share your story here, with a therapist, a sponsor or just a close friend you trust. And then start telling and speaking your life as You 2.0 – the new you. For me, I said “I am a non-bulimic” and then I lived into it one step at a time.
There is so much I want to share with you(!), but I hope that something I’ve offered will resonate with you. If an idea or a suggestion resonated and felt good to you – take it and implement it in your life today!
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